The 10 Myths and Misconceptions With regards to the ABCs of Attraction

Quite a few individuals have quite a bit of myths, misconceptions and stereotypes with regards to the PUA local community and staying a pickup artist.
As being a wing-girl for the ABCs of Attraction (one particular of the couple of respected expert PUA firms) it behooves me to set the make a difference straight as not simply a lady, but will also as a person that has labored with a lot of college students and seen them develop as better, a lot more assured adult males.
I understand that JT Tran cannot be accountable for every one of the preconceptions and biases that individuals have about pickup artists, but which is simply because what he does is much more a calling to aid his brothers be successful with women, living also to struggle racism and prejudices of remaining an Asian gentleman than this is a work for making cash.
That staying mentioned, it is best to have an understanding of I discuss just for our business rather than each of the PUAs out there, while you will discover lots of other good (instead of so great) dating coaching businesses. I’ll even be the primary to confess, I’ve experienced the misfortune to run into a few of the odd sort of PUAs within the peacocky, the obnoxious along with the grabby PUAs.
The good thing is, the ABCs of Attraction is absolutely nothing like them. So allow me to share the 10 Myths & Misconceptions with regards to the ABCS of Attraction and why we’re different than the rest.
Myth #1: It’s About Asian Men Worshiping Blonde White Women

The ABCs of Attraction Team (Sarah Ann, JT Tran, Gareth Jones, Ozzy)
Yes, I know it almost seems hypocritical of me to comment on this misconception. I mean, I am a blond, (rather than to be conceited) pretty Caucasian lady. And all over this website are pretty, blonde girls with Asian guys, right? That’s the ABCs gimmick, right??
Not really. Or as JT explained to me, and I’ve come to see in the college students I have worked with, a significant (not all as I’ve been- albeit rarely- approached by an Asian man or two) percentage of Asian guys literally DO NOT THINK that white women of all ages will date, much less talk to, them.
For example, I remember this conversation with just one of my girlfriends that went a little like this which I posted on my Facebook:
Today a good friend who happens to be a very attractive white girl and I were discussing guys (surprise!). The types of guys and our experiences with different races came up and she mentioned that she didn’t like Asians. I asked why.
She replied, “They don’t like me.”
I reported, “Why do you think that?” and shockingly (sarcasm) she mentioned, “They never talk to me and Asians just don’t like me since I’m too tall.”
Wow. Not surprisingly I hear this all with the time. It goes both ways; a whole lot of Asians are paranoid because they think white girls in general aren’t attracted to them and these girls in turn may assume that these hot Asian guys just aren’t interested in them.
It’s this massive misunderstanding feedback loop: the guy doesn’t think the girl likes him, so he doesn’t talk to her, which makes the girl think the guy doesn’t like her, so she starts not liking him, and it creates this self-fulfilling prophecy.
And also the way that JT explained it to me was that when he was getting the website designed, his intent was to promote a positive lifestyle (by teaching holistic confidence) and image for Asian adult males (by remaining a good role model who fought stereotypes and racism). And unlike many of the other dating coaching firms, he wanted to use images that would promote healthy interracial dynamic instead of just buying plain ol’ stock photos of random models.

JT Tran only uses images of girls hes actually romantically connected with
So instead, he’s used photos from women that he or somebody in the ABCs Team has romantically connected with to prove to the Asian men around that it is actually possible to date beautiful gals outside your race. So literally every female image on our website is a person that an ABCs trainer has dated in one form or another.
And yes, before you ask, I also have dated an ABCs instructor.
Proof is in the pudding, as JT always says. He’s basically trying to show that the ABCs trainers talk the talk and walk the walk. I know he wants to have images of other women like black girls, Latin girls, and whatnot, but stock images of Asian gentlemen with beautiful non-Asian women are next to non-existent and it’s already expensive enough as it is to setup a photoshoot and purchase the legal rights to the images.
So it isn’t about Asian guys worshiping white females. It’s about humanizing both groups of people. Showing Asian males that it can be possible to date beautiful gals outside your race and to show white (and other females) that Asian adult males do want to date us.
Myth #2: JT Exploits Asian Males along with the Asian American Community

JT Tran speaking at a packed house at the University of Chicago
Unfortunately, JT Tran is constantly met with disdain for supposedly trying that can help the Asian-American male community. This could not be further through the truth.
Creating the ABCs of Attraction was never something he intended to do or to be an Asian Dating / Life Coach. It just happened to be that he was 1 of the original Asian American bloggers who was quite frank in his writings, documenting his failures and successes. Folks who read it, either gravitated and supported or withdrew and attacked.
This became more than a career or work for him, it became a calling to aid his Asian brothers out.
Say what you will, you can find, in every ethnicity, groups of gentlemen that need enable. White, Black, Latino or Asian, there are guys that need this assistance in staying greater with gals and themselves. However, and this is where a lot of controversy arises; even though the PUA industry is run by Caucasians, the actual revenue generated by Asian gentlemen is 20-30%.
According to the US Census in the year 2000, the total number of Asian males above the age of 15 that have never married is 1,352,040. It doesn’t make any difference what your politics are, nor does it make a difference if you like him or don’t like him, but we would be the only minority-run corporation that addresses this issue.
So no, he doesn’t discuss for all Asian-Americans rather than all Asian guys need his assist, but I think he definitely speaks for a significant enough portion of AAs who have the right to voice their valid concerns concerning the gender dating imbalance and he wants to see that number of unmarried Asian males decrease.
Myth #3: We Only Teach Asians

Even African Americans need assist from the ABCs of Attraction!
When signing up for on of our bootcamps, a common question I hear is “Do I have to be Asian to take your program?”
The truth is, our clientele, simply because of who JT Tran is, is 50-75% Asian. 1 thing we’ve witnessed is, when you look at our reviews, we always trump other companies. The truth is, every time we’ve taught a White or Black client, they have almost always gotten laid that weekend or even a threesome – one White guy got a foursome!
In order to train our college students to be this effective, however, we have to be much better and have to have higher standards than other companies. While other firms are taking in average joes of all races and teaching for all races, we teach a good portion of our curriculum to Asian males. This is mainly because they are so incredibly inexperienced that they are almost children; not losers, but simply socially underdeveloped like another person who’s never exercised a muscle before.
As such, they are completely impressionable, where they walk in and we build them from your ground up. I wish our students were tall and good-looking but most of our college students are average-looking. The ABCs is not for just Asians but, in the words of an Asian alumni, “It is the ONLY program that will work for Asians.”
The non-Asians who have taken our program receive a Bruce Lee-style ass-whoopin’- Chuck Norris got nothin’ on us.
Myth #4: Guys Who Get Into The Community Are Weirdos and Losers

Dont be creepy!
Now I can’t communicate with the students that attend other programs. The ones that I have noticed and worked with, including millionaires, CEOs, lawyers and actors that you might meet on TV (including a summer blockbuster that’s premiered this year), however, are anything but that. Our college students have ranged from incredibly good looking body builders to highly prosperous, but shy nice guys.
The female reporters (including one Emmy-winning journalist) that have attended our programs are generally surprised at the college students – they’re usually shy, highly educated, but at their core are driven yet socially inexperienced adult men. They have a very house, position and car but at the expense of their social existence. They’re the “Paper Tigers” with the worlds, smart and driven to success, but they haven’t worked on their emotional intelligence and social experience which has left them incredibly effective males, but no one particular to share it with.
These would be the type of adult men ABCs of Attraction usually teach.
Myth #5: You Have to Dress Unusual and “Peacock” Like a Gay Leprechaun

Mystery in a fur coat hanging out with JT Tran in a suit
Peacocking, for those who don’t know, is when a gentleman dresses in an unique fashion to differentiate himself within the other adult men in the room. It can be as simple as a flashy necklace to a flamboyantly glitzy shirt with crosses and bling, nice snakeskin boots and top it off with a cowboy hat.
Everyone else thinks he’s mismatched but it’s with the intention of drawing females towards him. In his mind, dressing 10 levels above the rest will get him the best results. Without a doubt, JT and Gareth, at any given venue, would be the most stylish gentlemen there. Their sartorial abilities are without peer.
While they do dress superior than the rest, it’s never at the expense of social propriety – they’re dressed 2 levels above, not 10. Usually dressed as the rocker, the bad boy or the smooth operator, they’re not out of place as anyone that peacocks would be. They know how to dress better correctly and be fashionably edgy while far too several would-be PUAs don’t know to peacock correctly.
Myth #6: You Have to Lie, Insult, Mistreat, and “Neg” Women
A great number of women of all ages have this misconception that it truly is the intent of every PUA to manipulate, lie to, tear down and put down gals. I will not deny that there are those that operate in such a fashion, but the way I’ve seen JT teach his college students to be romantically and sexually honest in their intent by staying direct. I have not merely witnessed this first-hand watching shy, young gentlemen go up to and compliment a beautiful lady to becoming an unintentional recipient of grateful college students whose lives I have helped change.
Psychologists have found that, when you give a sincere compliment vs. and insincere compliment, you are a lot more likely to achieve the desired effect. Its simply a lot more enjoyable when in the presence of beautiful girls to compliment them.
Whether it’s telling a lady she’s beautiful or complimenting her creative fashion sense, the ABCs of Attraction has undoubtedly created a lot more Asian adult men complimenting beautiful females than anyone else. Negs are a tool, no doubt, but not one we employ often if at ABCs as too quite a few PUAs don’t know how to neg correctly.
Myth #7: All Gals Hate PUAs
“PUAs are all about sleeping with as several women of all ages as they can!”
“If a male says he’s a PUA I know he’s practically nothing but a man-whore!”
“A PUA doesn’t want a relationship – he just wants an one-night stand!”
“I know a PUA mainly because they all sound the same, rehearsing the same lame old pickup lines!”
These and lots of far more criticisms are supposedly uttered by girls all around. When JT tells the females he meets what he does, however, they are usually interested in his holistic approach to dating and empowering Asian men. The ones that are against what he do are ones that…to be nice, that gentlemen would not want to date anyways. Some women know what it’s like to be attractive and find enjoyment in attractive individuals, so they are generally very supportive.
A good deal of ladies also hate PUAs due to the fact from the overuse of rehearsed gimmicks and tactics. And I won’t lie, I too have been a recipient of same really lame gimmicks from wannabe PUAs who have approached me. And yes, quite a handful of have been obviously rehearsed and odd.
However, I won’t say that these tactics don’t have their place, but I feel that, in order for boys to become gentlemen, they need to learn the principles before the methodology. They need to learn that holistic confidence – to fight the fears and inner demons and master verbal attraction, to converse and also to be interesting to convey values.
The a single language that conquers all and is understood by everyone is body language. So while we use a several gambits that we give to our students as training wheels, I would say it makes no far more than ten percent of our lesson plan. The rest deals with building them up and giving them the skills necessary to be successful.
Myth #8: Only Men Learn Pickup
“Women would be the gatekeepers to sex but guys will be the gatekeepers to relationships.”
With that in mind, we do teach men how to achieve romantic success, but because once guys form physical intimacy, the emotional relationship can then form. The girls are equally accountable for the reason that they ultimately decide who they will have sex with.
Looking back, even before I joined the ABCs of Attraction, I was unintentionally using pickup tactics on the very guys that I found attractive. Albeit not very well, I’ll be the very first one particular to admit, I have horrible woman game when I’m around a guy I like.
Rest assured that every single pretty lady learns as soon as she hits puberty is how to get a relationship.
Some of the most advanced pickup tactics I have ever found are when we’ve hung out with Ethan Hawke, Quentin Taratino and Wesley Snipes, but it wasn’t the adult men picking up the women of all ages but the other way around. When a girl has her mind made up on picking up a male, what gentlemen learn with their PUA pales in comparison to what these gals can do.
Myth #9: It’s All About Sex, Sex, Sex!!!
I don’t feel that it’s my place to judge a guy, but statistics show that Asian gentlemen lose their virginity at an older age than other guys. Asian adult males are classified as the only ethnic group of adult men whose gals outperform them.
I will not condemn a guy who wants to spread his wings due to the fact his sexual conquests will pale in comparison to his peers. When we advocate physical intimacy, it’s to achieve confidence in pleasing a lady in bed, not just for his pleasure.
I don’t want a man to be chosen by a girl mainly because she chose him initially, but to have him choose her simply because he wants to be with her. If a male is chosen by the female, he denies himself the possibility of finding the woman of his dreams.
We’ve had a student that actually met and married a girl from a person of our bootcamps. The truth is, not everybody wants to get laid, not everyone wants a girlfriend, not everyone wants to get married, but no just one wants to die alone.
Myth #10: PUAs Have No Professionalism or Ethical Code of Conduct
While we are a legitimate organization, it’s unfortunate that almost anyone can get into this business – if you use a website and a wingman, you can “make a business.” JT calls this “two wingman and a website.” They besmirch the industry with their shoddy sites and hastily put-together “curriculum.”
However, there is an area of credibility that no a single in our industry can match. The ABCs of Attraction has been around for close to seven years. JT is a single of three PUAs that has been interviewed on TV and featured at IVY LEAGUE Universities like Harvard University, Yale University as well as University of Chicago.
When you show up at one particular of our bootcamps, we promise and deliver a standard of conduct, where you receive, every day, eight to 10 hours of training with powerpoint presentations and workbook materials. We have trainers that go with you into the field, wing-girls like me who support you practice, approach coaches to do demonstrations, find gals for you to talk to and then debrief you.
Much more than that, you get a pre-bootcamp package that can help you prepare and then 12 weeks of post-bootcamps mission for free after you’ve graduated. Some providers will teach you an one-hour lecture at a restaurant table, show up at a club to get you in and then go home with their girlfriend or wife.
To us, that is totally unacceptable and a complete waste of your time and dollars. We have a code of conduct of ethics that we live by.
ABCs of Attraction is part of the Seduction Local community, this is true. While it carries a certain stigma about it, the PUAs of today are not like PUAs on the past.
Even though youll find a couple of businesses on the market that want to rip adult males off, we have hundreds of reviews, dozens of testimonials, and many media outlets singing our praises. When you sign up with us, you know you are signing up with a reliable business that truly wishes to see you succeed.
After all, it’s not just us that makes ABCs of Attraction so excellent – it’s many of the hard-working pupils that improve themselves and their game that really talk for that enterprise. With each and every success, our reputation increases in society’s eyes; eventually, the misconceptions will disappear and guys everywhere will not be apprehensive to know the true value of ABCs of Attraction.

JT Tran is the leading dating and lifestyle coach for Asian men. His company the ABCs of Attraction has been featured on NBC, ABC, and on the front pages of New York Magazine, AsianWeek, and LA Weekly. He leads a wide variety of PUA bootcamps, training seminars, and confidence ABCs of Attraction Scam workshops across the nation and internationally.

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